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Overthinking. It’s a major obstacle of the quintessential introvert. Being in your head. Internally processing. Needing to think everything through to make sure you get it ‘right’.
It’s also good friends with perfectionism, fear, and procrastination.
And I get it, overthinking and me go way back, this message is not coming from a high horse at all.
But what I’ve learnt about overthinking is that it gets in the way of everything. It locks us down. It limits our ability to even start. It makes everything seem so much bigger and more daunting than it actually even is (cue the overwhelm that often tags along).
But do you know what overthinking REALLY is?
Not the idea we have of it or the symptoms we relate to it, but the actual cause of overthinking?
A closed heart.
The more sensitive we are, the more protective we tend to be of our gentle hearts. There’s a soft, squishiness that we may have experienced at one time in our lives or another that have sent our survival instincts into overdrive.
Protect that heart at all costs, that instinct has told our nervous systems.
But somehow behind our backs, internally, without our full knowing.
We just get to deal with the fall out.
If you’ve ever considered your overthinking to be a curse (I know I sure have) and wish that you could be different, what if you could consider that when you’re ‘all up in your head’, it’s a reminder to breathe and open your heart.
It’s a process, of course, and there are many, many ways to do this, but sometimes just being fully conscious and bringing awareness to what’s going on is all that’s really needed.
You don’t know how you’re feeling?
Maybe you’re just feeling too much that your brain cannot translate it into human words.
You’re all up in your head?
Drop into your body. All this means is stop. Breathe. And guide your breath down into your body. Focus your energy on your heart space. Breathe into that space. Just be in your heart. And allow it to show you what’s really going on.
You keep going around in loops of thoughts about whatever might be worrying you right now?
Do what you can to disrupt the loop. Watch a funny video, go for a walk, take a shower, put on a song you love and sing or dance your heart out.
Let’s face it, we’re internal processors. Thinking things through is just going to be life. And overthinking might just be with us for the journey. But if we can use this little character trait to recognise times when we need to open our hearts and feel more than think, it could start to be more of an ally than a foe.
In all honesty, I was sitting here wanting to write my first blog post in YEARS and I couldn’t. I kept bouncing around from idea to idea, thinking of all the things I want to share, all the thoughts I have. Which is the ‘right’ first post? What ‘should’ I be saying? And when I recognised what was going on, that overthinking was stopping me from just getting started, I realised I wasn’t operating from my heart, I was allowing my head to overrun everything. I stopped. Breathed. Focused on my business, my message, and what I want to put out into the world and I just started typing.
Try it sometime and let me know how it goes!
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